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Your Parents Don't Deserve This

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US / əˈgenst /

UK / əˈɡenst /

A1
  • preposition
  • In physical contact with, as for support; next to
  • In opposition to; disagreeing with

table

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US / ˈteɪbl /

UK / ˈtebəl /

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  • noun
  • Diagram that shows data in rows and columns
  • Raised flat surface you sit at to work or eat
  • verb
  • To leave an idea to be discussed at a later date

mother

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US / ˈmʌðə(r) /

UK / ˈmʌðɚ /

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  • noun
  • Female who has a child or children; female parent
  • verb
  • To take care of someone as if they were your child

our

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US / 'aʊə(r) /

UK / aʊr /

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  • determiner
  • Belonging to us

not

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US / nɒt /

UK / nɑt /

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  • adverb
  • Word indicating the negative
  • (Used to form the negative of verbs)

fifth

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US / fɪfθ /

UK / fɪfθ /

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  • noun
  • 5th

moral

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US / ˈmɒrəl /

UK / ˈmɔrəl, ˈmɑr- /

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  • adjecitve
  • In a way considered proper and good by most people
  • noun
  • In a way considered proper and good by most people
  • Lesson learned from a story or experience

pandemic

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US / pæn'demɪk /

UK / pænˈdɛmɪk /

C2
  • adjecitve
  • (of a disease) existing in almost all of an area or in almost all of a group of people, animals, or
  • noun
  • a pandemic disease

record

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US / 'rekɔ:d /

UK / ˈrekərd /

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  • noun
  • Highest or most extreme level achieved
  • Round plastic disc on which music has been stored
  • History of a person's past actions or achievements
  • verb
  • To indicate a temperature, speed, etc.; register
  • To write down or say what happened
  • To put music, sounds onto a device to store it

would

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US / wʊd /

UK / wʊd /

A1
  • other
  • Used to indicate something imagined
  • Used to ask or request something politely
  • Verb used to indicate possibility, request etc.
  • Used to indicate a preference
  • Used to indicate a reaction
  • Indicates something that occurred repeatedly
  • Used to indicate willingness or ability to do

address

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US / ə'dres /

UK / əˈdrɛs /

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  • noun
  • Exact street location of a place
  • A formal speech to a group of people
  • verb
  • To write the place someone lives on a letter
  • To refer to someone or something formally
  • To make a formal speech to a group of people
  • To try to find a solution to; think about

become

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US / bɪ'kʌm /

UK / bɪˈkʌm /

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  • verb
  • To begin to be; grow to be; develop into
  • To be suitable for a particular job or role

child

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US / tʃaɪld /

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  • noun
  • A very young person, between about 2 and 15

behaviour

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US / bɪˈheɪvjə(r) /

UK / bɪˈhevjɚ /

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  • noun
  • The way a person or thing acts; manner

avoid

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US / ə'vɔɪd /

UK / əˈvɔɪd /

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  • verb
  • To prevent from happening
  • To stay away from

usually

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US / ˈju:ʒuəli /

UK / ˈjuːʒuəli /

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  • adverb
  • Normally; regularly

childhood

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US / ˈtʃaɪldhʊd /

UK / ˈtʃaɪldˌhʊd /

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  • noun
  • The time when you are a child

but

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US / bət /

UK / bʌt,bət /

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  • conjunction
  • Used before you say something different, opposite

cut

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US / kʌt /

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  • noun
  • Act/instance of reducing the size or amount of
  • Small opening made using a sharp object, knife
  • A wound on someone's skin caused by a sharp object
  • verb
  • To reduce the size or amount of something
  • To use knife or scissors to divide, open surfaces

especially

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US / ɪˈspeʃəli /

UK / ɛˈspɛʃəli, ɪˈspɛʃ- /

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  • adverb
  • More than usual; extremely

give

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US / ɡɪv /

UK / ɡɪv /

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  • noun
  • Degree of flexibility in something, a material
  • verb
  • To hand over or present something to someone
  • To cause someone to have or experience something

good

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US / ɡʊd /

UK / ɡʊd /

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  • adjecitve
  • Proper, appropriate or right
  • (Of an amount) enough; plenty
  • Excellent; high quality
  • Acting well or properly; of moral character
  • In a positive or happy emotional state
  • noun
  • Advantage or benefit

illustrate

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US / ˈɪləstreɪt /

UK / ˈɪləˌstret, ɪˈlʌsˌtret /

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  • verb
  • To supply pictures to go along with words
  • To be an example that explains or proves something

phrase

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US / freɪz /

UK / frez /

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  • noun
  • Common expression or saying
  • Section of musical notes in a piece of music
  • A set of words used together
  • verb
  • To choose words to say what you mean clearly

fact

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US / fækt /

UK / fækt /

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  • noun
  • Something that is known or proved to be true

few

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US / fju: /

UK / fju /

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  • pronoun
  • Not many, a small number

much

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US / mʌtʃ /

UK / mʌtʃ /

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  • adjecitve
  • Very; to a high level or degree
  • adverb
  • A lot; large amount; a high degree of
  • Nearly; basically
  • On many occasions; often
  • noun
  • A large amount; a great quantity

grow

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US / ɡrəʊ /

UK / ɡro /

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  • verb
  • To get bigger and more mature; make plants do this
  • To improve; to develop better skills over time
  • To develop and become bigger or taller over time

periodically

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US / ˌpɪərɪ'ɒdɪklɪ /

UK / pɪrɪˈɑdɪklɪ /

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  • adverb
  • Over time, often with regular spaces between

since

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US / sɪns /

UK / sɪns /

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  • adverb
  • At a point before the present time
  • conjunction
  • For this reason; because
  • preposition
  • From the time in the past that

unworthy

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US / ʌnˈwɜ:ði /

UK / ʌnˈwɜ:rði /

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  • adjecitve
  • Lacking in value or merit; not deserving help

jew

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US / dʒuː /

UK / dʒuː /

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  • noun
  • One of a people whose religion is Judaism

just

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US / dʒʌst /

UK / dʒʌst /

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  • adjecitve
  • Proper or appropriate; as is deserved
  • Doing or being what is right or fair
  • Legally correct; having enough evidence
  • adverb
  • Almost; nearly
  • Exactly at the time of
  • Exactly (the same as, like)

religious

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US / rɪˈlɪdʒəs /

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  • adjecitve
  • Following the rules and beliefs of a faith

talk

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US / tɔ:k /

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  • noun
  • Style of speaking
  • Discussion between two countries
  • Giving information in front of people; lecture
  • Saying things or ideas to someone with words
  • verb
  • To make a formal speech about something
  • To say things or ideas to someone with words

begin

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US / bɪ'ɡɪn /

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  • verb
  • To do the first part of an action; to start

kill

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  • noun
  • Animal killed by a person or other animal
  • verb
  • To cause someone to experience a lot of pain
  • To end the life of a person or other living thing
  • To be very funny
  • To prevent something from continuing or operating
  • To do something unimportant to pass time quickly

such

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US / sʌtʃ /

UK / sʌtʃ /

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  • determiner
  • Being similar to
  • (Thing) as previously stated or referred to
  • adverb
  • (Used to emphasize the quality of an adjective)

never

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US / 'nevə(r) /

UK / ˈnɛvɚ /

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  • adverb
  • Not ever; not at any time

replace

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US / rɪ'pleɪs /

UK / rɪˈples /

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  • verb
  • To use instead of something else
  • To return an item to its original location

for

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US / fə(r) /

UK / fɔr,fə /

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  • preposition
  • Used to show the purpose, or need of something

frequently

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US / ˈfri:kwəntli /

UK / ˈfrikwəntlɪ /

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  • adverb
  • Often; regularly

time

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US / taɪm /

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  • noun
  • Speed at which music is played; tempo
  • Point as shown on a clock, e.g. 3 p.m
  • Number of hours, minutes needed to do something
  • Occasion when something happens
  • Period or occasion that something occurred
  • Period in history or the past
  • Something measured in minutes, hours, days, etc.
  • How long an event takes; duration
  • verb
  • To check speed at which music is performed
  • To choose a specific moment to do something
  • To measure how long an event takes, e.g. a race
  • To schedule something to occur at a specific moment

why

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US / waɪ /

UK / hwaɪ, waɪ /

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  • adverb
  • Question word to ask for a reason
  • exclamation
  • (Used to express surprise or approval)

convince

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US / kən'vɪns /

UK / kənˈvɪns /

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  • verb
  • To persuade someone, or make them feel sure

difficult

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US / 'dɪfɪkəlt /

UK / ˈdɪfɪˌkʌlt, -kəlt /

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  • adjecitve
  • Hard; not easy; you need to work hard to do it

generation

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US / ˌdʒenəˈreɪʃn /

UK / ˌdʒɛnəˈreʃən /

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  • noun
  • Act or process of producing or causing something
  • People born and living at about the same time

myself

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US / maɪˈself /

UK / maɪˈsɛlf /

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  • pronoun
  • The same person who did the action mentioned
  • My regular, usual, or healthy self

though

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US / ðəu /

UK / ðo /

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  • adverb
  • Although, despite the fact that

how

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US / haʊ /

UK / haʊ /

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  • adjecitve
  • To what degree? in what amount?
  • adverb
  • (Used to explain the way to do something)
  • exclamation
  • For what purpose or reason?
  • (Used to ask someone or something's condition)

live

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US / lɪv /

UK / liv /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Being broadcast as events happen, not recorded
  • Carrying electric current; able to give a shock
  • Glowing because burning; hot
  • Not yet killed (for food)
  • adverb
  • (Music, drama) as it is performed
  • verb
  • To be alive
  • To experience a particular type of life
  • To make your home in a house or town

woman

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US / ˈwʊmən /

UK / ˈwʊmən /

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  • noun
  • Adult female human being

you

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US / jʊ /

UK / ju /

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  • pronoun
  • Person someone is speaking or writing to
  • Person or people in general

judge

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US / dʒʌdʒ /

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  • noun
  • Person who decides on the results of a contest
  • Person who has the power to make a decision
  • verb
  • To reach a decision about who won a contest
  • To form an opinion after careful consideration
  • To make a decision in court

this

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US / ðɪs /

UK / ðɪs /

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  • adjecitve
  • Used to indicate something already been discussed
  • Used to indicate something happening around now
  • adverb
  • An indication by a physical motion or gesture
  • A specific amount of
  • determiner
  • Person, thing, or idea near you
  • pronoun
  • Person, thing that has already been discussed

lucky

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US / 'lʌkɪ /

UK / ˈlʌki /

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  • adjecitve
  • Fortunate; having good things happen by chance

love

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US / lʌv /

UK / lʌv /

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  • noun
  • Person's name
  • A very strong feeling of affection
  • The person you care very deeply about
  • Strong, deep emotional and sexual attraction
  • verb
  • To care for and like someone very strongly, deeply
  • To like doing very much; enjoy greatly
  • To feel a strong emotional and romantic attraction

other

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US / 'ʌðə(r) /

UK / ˈʌðər /

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  • adjecitve
  • A thing different from that mentioned
  • determiner
  • (Something) else; not the first (one)
  • pronoun
  • Being the one and only thing of that category

one

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US / wʌn /

UK / wʌn /

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  • pronoun
  • You; we; people in general; someone
  • The thing or person previously referred to
  • adjecitve
  • Used to refer to people generally
  • Being a strong example of (something mentioned)
  • number
  • Number 1

phone

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US / fəʊn /

UK / foʊn /

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  • noun
  • Machine used to talk to someone who is far away
  • verb
  • To talk to someone using a telephone

than

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US / ðən /

UK / ðən /

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  • conjunction
  • Used to compare two things that are not equal

alone

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US / ə'ləʊn /

UK / əˈlon /

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  • adjecitve
  • Apart from others
  • Without equal
  • adverb
  • Without anyone or anything else

lead

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US / li:d /

UK / lid /

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  • adjecitve
  • Being the main part in movies or plays
  • noun
  • Wire for electricity, computer, etc.; cable
  • Information that could help to solve a crime
  • Main part in a play or movie
  • Heavy, gray metal element
  • Rope used to tie something to stop it escaping
  • Act of being at the front in a race or game
  • verb
  • To show the way or guide others
  • To be at the front of a race or game
  • To travel in front of; go in advance of others

let

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US / let /

UK / lɛt /

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  • verb
  • To allow someone to do something
  • Introducing a suggestion to do something together
  • To rent a house, etc. to others

the

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US / ðə /

UK / ðə /

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  • article
  • Used to refer to something already mentioned
  • Used to show there is only one of something
  • determiner
  • Used to describe all of a family

bad

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  • adjecitve
  • Not good; wrong
  • Lacking in good morals; evil
  • No longer fresh; spoiled

contact

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US / 'kɒntækt /

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  • adjecitve
  • Touching or feeling something
  • noun
  • Touching or feeling something
  • Object that allows electricity to run through it
  • Communication with someone or something
  • People who can give you information, introductions
  • verb
  • To get in touch with someone

three

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US / θri: /

UK / θri /

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  • number
  • Number 3

encounter

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US / ɪn'kaʊntə(r) /

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  • noun
  • A chance meeting; unexpected or unplanned meeting
  • verb
  • To come up against a problem or trouble; meet
  • To meet someone or something unexpectedly

man

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US / mæn /

UK / mæn /

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  • noun
  • Humans in general, including male and female
  • An adult male human being
  • Male who acts in a masculine way; not like a woman
  • verb
  • To control or operate (a machine); be in charge of
  • To operate a machine (a boat, etc.)

parent

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US / 'peərənt /

UK / ˈpɛrənt, ˈpær- /

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  • noun
  • Person's, animal's mother or father
  • Something creating other things of the same kind

suspect

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US / sə'spekt /

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  • adjecitve
  • (Of a thing) causing doubt; suspicious
  • noun
  • Person thought to have committed a crime
  • verb
  • To consider someone is the one guilty of a crime
  • To doubt or lack trust

teach

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US / ti:tʃ /

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  • verb
  • To help someone learn or do something

whose

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US / hu:z /

UK / huz /

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  • pronoun
  • Refers to the person who owns something

prager

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trump

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  • noun
  • Any playing card of a suit that outranks another
  • verb
  • To gain an advantage over others

command

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US / kə'mɑ:nd /

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  • noun
  • Electronic order to a computer to do something
  • An order to control things or others
  • verb
  • To be able to see far from a certain location
  • To give an order; have control over others
  • To have or get (respect or attention)

father

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US / ˈfɑ:ðə(r) /

UK / ˈfɑðɚ /

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  • noun
  • A male parent
  • Man who is the first to do or invent something
  • verb
  • To create a child by making a woman pregnant

evil

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US / 'i:vl /

UK / ˈivəl /

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  • adjecitve
  • Morally bad; causing harm to people
  • noun
  • Act considered morally bad
  • Value, condition, or conduct that causes suffering

his

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US / hɪz /

UK / hɪz /

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  • pronoun
  • Something belonging to a male person

with

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US / wɪð /

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  • preposition
  • As an employee of a certain company
  • Against something or someone
  • By using something as a means
  • Due to; because of
  • Including
  • Possessing as a feature
  • Related to
  • (Of the manner/attitude by which you do something)
  • Used to express that people or things are together

have

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US / həv /

UK / hæv /

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  • verb
  • To drink, smoke, eat or use something
  • To experience the effects of something
  • To organize an event, or join in an activity
  • To own, possess, or hold something
  • To cause to happen or produce a particular effect

prior

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US / 'praɪə(r) /

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  • adjecitve
  • Existing or coming earlier in time
  • (Of a claim, etc.) more important than another one
  • noun
  • Monk or priest in charge of a monastery

western

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US / ˈwestən /

UK / ˈwestərn /

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  • adjecitve
  • Movies often about cowboys in the American West
  • Coming from, found in, or facing towards the west

know

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US / nəʊ /

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  • verb
  • To be familiar with a person or place, thing
  • To feel sure or be convinced about something
  • To discover or be aware of something
  • To be able to distinguish
  • To have knowledge of things

permission

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  • noun
  • Right to do something as allowed by another

donald

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US / dəˈmɪnɪkən /

UK / dəˈmɪnɪkən /

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grandchild

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UK / ˈɡrændˌtʃaɪld, ˈɡræn- /

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  • noun
  • Your son or daughter's child

hear

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US / hɪə(r) /

UK / hɪr /

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  • verb
  • To be aware of sound; to perceive with the ear
  • To be told or find out information or facts
  • To consider or listen to a court case

model

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US / ˈmɒdl /

UK / ˈmɑ:dl /

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  • adjecitve
  • Being an excellent example of
  • noun
  • Person who wears fashion to show it to the public
  • A small scale copy of a full original
  • verb
  • To wear and display clothes at a fashion show
  • To make a small scale copy of a full original

world

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US / wɜ:ld /

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  • noun
  • All the humans, events, activities on the earth
  • Political division due to some kind of similarity

bear

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US / bɛː /

UK / bɛr /

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  • noun
  • Large brown animal with fur that lives in forests
  • Someone who expects stock market to fall
  • verb
  • To accept (responsibilities or duties)
  • To give birth to a child; to produce fruit
  • To accept or suffer the weight of difficulties
  • To keep moving left or right while going forward
  • To show (sign of something)
  • To support the weight of something, e.g. a bridge

kitchen

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US / ˈkɪtʃɪn /

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  • noun
  • Place where food is cooked

divorce

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US / dɪ'vɔ:s /

UK / dɪˈvɔrs, -ˈvors /

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  • noun
  • Legal breakup of a marriage
  • verb
  • To legally end a marriage to (someone)

inflict

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US / ɪn'flɪkt /

UK / ɪnˈflɪkt /

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  • verb
  • To make someone endure (something bad)

ruin

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US / 'ru:ɪn /

UK / ˈruɪn /

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  • verb
  • To damage or completely destroy something
  • To cause someone to lose their money or status
  • noun
  • Remains of a building that has been destroyed

cause

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US / kɔ:z /

UK / kɔz /

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  • noun
  • Belief, goal or organization that people support
  • Reason for
  • verb
  • To make something happen; create effect or result

crush

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US / krʌʃ /

UK / krʌʃ /

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  • noun
  • Strong attraction to someone
  • verb
  • To break something into small pieces by pressing
  • To defeat someone or something (in a game)
  • To damage something by flattening it
  • To cause someone to feel humiliated

dennis

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US / ˈdɛnɪs /

UK / ˈdɛnɪs /

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mentality

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US / menˈtæləti /

UK / mɛnˈtælɪti /

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  • noun
  • Attitude toward, or a belief about something

primary

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US / 'praɪmərɪ /

UK / ˈpraɪˌmɛri, -məri /

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  • adjecitve
  • Most important, most basic or essential
  • Happening first; earliest
  • of or for the teaching of young children

place

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US / pleɪs /

UK / ples /

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  • noun
  • Particular location, area or region
  • verb
  • To put someone in a particular type of situation
  • To put something in a certain location or position

secular

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US / ˈsekjələ(r) /

UK / ˈsɛkjəlɚ /

B2
  • adjecitve
  • Not connected or controlled by religious beliefs

family

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US / 'fæməlɪ /

UK / ˈfæmli /

A1
  • noun
  • Close group of people or organizations
  • A group of people who are related through blood
  • Group of related plants or animals

during

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US / ˈdjʊərɪŋ /

UK / ˈdʊrɪŋ, ˈdjʊr- /

A1
  • preposition
  • At some point in the course of an event or thing

extent

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US / ɪkˈstent /

UK / ɪkˈstɛnt /

A2
  • noun
  • Point, level or limit to which something reaches
  • Range or space included in something

honor

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US / 'ɒnə(r) /

UK / ˈɑnɚ /

B2
  • noun
  • Award you get for doing well; prize, title, etc.
  • Chance to do something special; privilege
  • Respect given to someone who is admired
  • Good standing a person has in a community
  • verb
  • To fulfill an agreement
  • To give an award to someone
  • To respect someone or something

respect

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US / rɪ'spekt /

UK / rɪˈspɛkt /

A2
  • noun
  • Behavior that follows the established rules
  • Admiration for someone
  • Regard or admiration for someone or something
  • verb
  • To follow the established rules
  • To think very highly of another person

step

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US / step /

UK / stɛp /

A1
  • noun
  • Movement done as part of a particular dance
  • Distance covered by one movement of a leg; stride
  • One part or stage in a process
  • Sound made by the feet while walking; footstep
  • Flat horizontal piece that forms stairs
  • verb
  • To raise and moving the foot to put it down

despite

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US / dɪˈspaɪt /

UK / dɪˈspaɪt /

A2
  • preposition
  • Without being affected by something; in spite of

essentially

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US / ɪˈsenʃəli /

UK / ɪˈsenʃəli /

A2
  • adverb
  • Basically; (said when stating the basic facts)

least

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US / li:st /

UK / list /

A1
  • adverb
  • In the smallest or lowest way
  • noun
  • Something that is of the lowest or smallest degree

refuse

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US / rɪ'fju:z /

UK / ˈrefjus /

A2
  • noun
  • Garbage, waste
  • verb
  • To not accept, allow, or give something

right

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US / raɪt /

UK / raɪt /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Correct or true
  • The south side of you looking at the rising sun
  • adverb
  • Exactly in a place or time
  • Being appropriate for a particular event
  • In a straight or direct manner
  • noun
  • Something you are legally or morally allowed to do
  • Ideal of what is just and good
  • Political view based on conservatism
  • verb
  • To fix something previously wrong or unjust
  • To make upright, as a boat that has turned over

she

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US / ʃɪ /

UK / ʃi /

A1
  • pronoun
  • Female person or animal mentioned before
  • (Refers to female person mentioned before)

value

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US / 'vælju: /

UK / ˈvælju /

A1
  • noun
  • Importance you attach to something
  • Some information expressed as a number
  • Stated price of something; worth
  • verb
  • To place a high importance on something
  • To say how much money something is worth

hard

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US / hɑ:d /

UK / hɑː(r)d /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Difficult to do; difficult to understand
  • (Of facts) not able to be misunderstood; clear
  • (Of alcohol) strong
  • Involving or requiring lots of work, effort, care
  • Being full of pain, trouble, and problems
  • Strong
  • (Of edge) clear; sharp
  • Difficult to bend, break or cut; solid
  • adverb
  • With lots of force, power, or impact

first

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US / fɜ:st /

UK / fɚst /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • 1st; Coming before all others in time or place
  • noun
  • Something that has not happened before
  • Position of the winner of a competition

case

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US / keɪs /

UK / kes /

A1
  • noun
  • Container used to carry things, e.g. clothes
  • Set of facts about a crime
  • Set of facts about an event
  • Example or instance of something
  • verb
  • To find out about a place, as in planning to steal

great

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US / ɡreɪt /

UK / ɡret /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Very large in size
  • Very important
  • Very good; fantastic; wonderful
  • adverb
  • Very good; better than before
  • noun
  • Successful and well-admired person

terrible

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US / ˈterəbl /

UK / ˈtɛrəbəl /

A2
  • adjecitve
  • Very bad; horrible

about

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US / ə'baʊt /

UK / əˈbaʊt /

A1
  • adverb
  • To be ready to; going to
  • Nearly; approximately; roughly
  • Near; next to; close to
  • In every direction; in the area of
  • preposition
  • Concerning or of (a topic)

even

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US / 'i:vn /

UK / ˈivən /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Being equal in influence, power, possibility etc.
  • Being divided equally or fairly
  • (Of teams/contest) with similar chances of success
  • Smooth, level, or regular
  • Can be divided by 2; ending in 2, 4, 6, 8, or 0
  • At a regular, equally steady manner
  • Remaining steady and unchanging
  • adverb
  • (When this is surprising) as well; too
  • (Used to compare two things/stress the difference)
  • verb
  • To make something level; to flatten
  • To make something equal

govern

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US / ˈgʌvn /

UK / ˈgʌvərn /

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  • verb
  • To officially control land and make policies

grandmother

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US / ˈgrænmʌðə(r) /

UK / ˈɡrændˌmʌðɚ, ˈɡræn- /

B2
  • noun
  • Your mother or father's mother

like

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US / laɪk /

UK / laɪk /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Being equal in status or kind to something else
  • Similar; the same
  • adverb
  • For example
  • preposition
  • Used as a filler; used to ad emphasis
  • In a way similar to the way something is done
  • Such as; for example
  • verb
  • To want to
  • To find something pleasing; to prefer something

people

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US / 'pi:pl /

UK / ˈpipəl /

A1
  • noun
  • Persons sharing culture, country, background, etc.
  • Men, Women, Children

second

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US / 'sekənd /

UK / ˈsɛkənd /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • 2nd; the one following first
  • noun
  • Unit of time; one sixtieth of a minute
  • Short period of time that you wait for someone
  • (Do) soon

that

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US / ðæt /

UK / ðæt, ðət /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • The person or thing being talked about
  • Used to identify something both the speakers know
  • adverb
  • Used to reinforce adjectives and adverbs
  • To such a degree
  • conjunction
  • Used to connect a noun clause
  • Used to introduce an adverbial clause
  • Used to introduce a noun clause
  • determiner
  • Used as a noun to refer to something
  • pronoun
  • Referring an object far away
  • Used to refer to the relative pronoun ‘which’

what

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US / wɒt /

UK / hwɑt, hwʌt, wɔt, wʌt,hwət, wət /

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  • pronoun
  • Thing or things that; the same kind as
  • Used to emphasize something you are about to say
  • adjecitve
  • Used to refer to a particular amount, or number
  • Used to place emphasis on a particular quality
  • adverb
  • To a certain degree
  • determiner
  • Question words used for asking for information
  • exclamation
  • Used to express excitement, shock, or surprise
  • Used to ask people to repeat something they said

infliction

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US / ɪn'flɪkʃn /

UK / ɪnˈflɪkʃən /

B2
  • noun
  • Causing someone to endure something bad

nothing

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US / 'nʌθɪŋ /

UK / ˈnʌθɪŋ /

A1
  • noun
  • Item of little or no value, importance, interest
  • Number or value of zero
  • pronoun
  • Not anything, not a single thing

tell

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US / tel /

UK / tɛl /

A1
  • verb
  • To (strongly) advise a person to do something
  • To be able to guess
  • To say or communicate information to someone
  • To inform, but without speaking; indicate
  • To have a negative effect on someone
  • To order someone to do something; command
  • To recognize something based on certain signs
  • To report something to an authority
  • To explain something or teach someone something

their

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US / ðɛː /

UK / ðer /

A1
  • determiner
  • Belonging to them

yes

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US / jes /

UK / jɛs /

A1
  • adverb
  • Way to say you agree or will do something

way

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US / weɪ /

UK / we /

A1
  • adverb
  • Used to emphasize the amount of something
  • noun
  • Particular aspect of something being thought about
  • One of various choices that could be made
  • Particular existing condition or state
  • (Often long) distance or length of time
  • How something is done
  • Route to go to a place
  • Small street
  • Usual behavior, emotions or habits of someone

dread

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US / dred /

UK / drɛd /

B2
  • verb
  • To await with great fear

vote

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US / vəʊt /

UK / vot /

A2
  • noun
  • Act of deciding who to choose in an election
  • verb
  • To make a choice for or against, as in an election

both

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US / bəuθ /

UK / boθ /

A1
  • determiner
  • Used to refer to two things at the same time
  • pronoun
  • Used to refer to two things at the same time

hold

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US / həʊld /

UK / hold /

A1
  • noun
  • Section of a ship or plane used for storing things
  • Influence or power held over someone
  • Place of support for hands or feet when climbing
  • verb
  • To agree to keep something for someone
  • To have the capacity to support/contain something
  • To control an area and protect it from attack
  • To not allow someone to leave a place
  • To cause an event to happen at a place or time
  • To use hands or arms to carry or keep something
  • To have a specific quality or property
  • To keep an image, belief or feeling in your mind
  • To have or own something
  • To wait before being able to talk on the phone
  • To limit the movement of someone in a sport

accordingly

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US / əˈkɔ:dɪŋli /

UK / əˈkɔ:rdɪŋli /

A2
  • adverb
  • Taking the situation into account; appropriately

america

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US / ə'merɪkə /

UK / əˈmɛrɪkə /

A1
  • noun
  • The United States of America; North America and/or South America

strange

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US / streɪndʒ /

UK / strendʒ /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Unusual or odd; surprising because unexpected

who

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US / hu: /

UK / hu /

A1
  • pronoun
  • Which person
  • Used to introduce information about people

act

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US / ækt /

UK / ækt /

A1
  • noun
  • What someone did; action; behavior
  • A law or rule passed by a government we must obey
  • One of the parts that a stage play is divided into
  • verb
  • To behave in a certain way
  • To perform on a stage or in a movie

believe

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US / bɪ'li:v /

UK / bɪˈliv /

A1
  • verb
  • To think or accept that something is true
  • To have a particular opinion about something

alienation

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US / ˌeɪlɪə'neɪʃn /

UK / ˌeljəˈneʃən, ˌeliə- /

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  • noun
  • Feeling of not belonging in a place or group

human

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US / 'hju:mən /

UK / ˈhjumən /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Concerning or characteristic of people
  • noun
  • A person; a man, woman or child

moreover

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US / mɔ:rˈəʊvə(r) /

UK / mɔ:rˈoʊvər /

B1
  • adverb
  • In addition to what has been said

largely

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US / ˈlɑ:dʒli /

UK / ˈlɑ:rdʒli /

A2
  • adverb
  • In large part; mainly or chiefly

they

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US / ðeɪ /

UK / ðe /

A1
  • pronoun
  • Two or more people, animals, or things

very

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US / 'verɪ /

UK / ˈvɛri /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Concerning a large degree or amount
  • adverb
  • A lot; much; many
  • Used to stress or emphasize a noun

communication

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US / kəˌmju:nɪ'keɪʃn /

UK / kəˌmjunɪˈkeʃən /

A2
  • noun
  • Talking to people; giving information to people

concur

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US / kənˈkɜ:(r) /

UK / kənˈkə: /

B2
  • verb
  • To agree

excuse

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US / ɪk'skju:s /

UK / ɪkˈskjuz /

A2
  • noun
  • Note explaining why someone cannot do or attend
  • Reason why you did or didn't do something
  • verb
  • To allow someone not to do (jury service, etc.)
  • To explain acting in a bad or impolite manner
  • To forgive someone for something bad or impolite

possible

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US / ˈpɒsəbl /

UK / ˈpɑsəbəl /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Being able or appropriate for a task or purpose
  • Having a chance of happening, or being true

neighbour

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US / 'neɪbə(r) /

UK / ˈnebɚ /

B1
  • noun
  • Person who lives, or is near, you

son

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US / sʌn /

UK / sʌn /

A1
  • noun
  • Male child; friendly way of addressing a boy

tie

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US / taɪ /

UK / taɪ /

A2
  • noun
  • Item, such as string or wire, used to join things
  • Strong connection between people, countries
  • When both sides in a game, vote get same score
  • One match or game that is part of a bigger contest
  • Something that lessens a person's freedom
  • Thin piece of cloth worn round neck of shirt
  • Piece of wood/metal used to stop something moving
  • verb
  • To attach things (together) with a string or rope
  • To end a game, contest or vote with the same score
  • To require someone to be in a specific place

and

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US / ənd /

UK / ənd, ən,ænd /

A1
  • conjunction
  • Used to refer to two or more things
  • Plus; in addition; on top of that
  • Used to introduce an action that follows another

commandment

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US / kəˈmɑ:ndmənt /

UK / kəˈmændmənt /

B1
  • noun
  • A rule (as one given by God) that must be followed

culture

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US / 'kʌltʃə(r) /

UK / ˈkʌltʃɚ /

A2
  • noun
  • Beliefs and customs of a particular group

certainly

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US / ˈsə:tnli /

UK / ˈsɚtnli /

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  • adverb
  • Sure; of course

ignore

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US / ɪɡ'nɔ:(r) /

UK / ɪɡˈnɔr, -ˈnor /

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  • verb
  • To not listen to, look at, or pay attention to

pain

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US / peɪn /

UK / pen /

A1
  • noun
  • Strong feeling of hurt or discomfort
  • Something or someone that bothers or upsets you
  • verb
  • To cause someone to feel upset or worry

lot

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US / lɒt /

UK / lɑt /

A1
  • noun
  • What happens to a person in life from chance; fate
  • A group of people seen together
  • Item for sale at an auction
  • Small area of land used for a purpose e.g. parking

another

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US / əˈnʌðə(r) /

UK / əˈnʌðɚ /

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  • adjecitve
  • One more, but not this
  • determiner
  • One more added
  • pronoun
  • One more (thing)

guide

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US / ɡaɪd /

UK / ɡaɪd /

A2
  • noun
  • Book or a magazine containing information/advice
  • Person leading others visiting an unknown place
  • verb
  • To help or advise someone about something
  • To control missile to hit a target by radio signal
  • To lead people visiting a new or unknown place

hurt

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US / hɜ:t /

UK / hɚt /

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  • noun
  • Mental, emotional, or physical pain
  • verb
  • To cause pain, damage or injury

husband

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US / ˈhʌzbənd /

UK / ˈhʌzbənd /

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  • noun
  • Married man

early

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US / ˈɜ:li /

UK / ˈɜ:rli /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Happening or appearing before
  • adverb
  • Coming/happening before others in a time sequence
  • Happening sooner than expected

meet

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US / mi:t /

UK / mit /

A1
  • noun
  • Sporting competition e.g. swimming
  • verb
  • To provide something that is necessary
  • To come together at a certain time or place

most

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US / məʊst /

UK / most /

A1
  • adverb
  • Very; extremely
  • Greatest possible degree
  • pronoun
  • Nearly all of something

decide

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US / dɪ'saɪd /

UK / dɪˈsaɪd /

A2
  • verb
  • To make a choice or choose after thinking about it
  • To make a legal judgment in court
  • to affect the result of something

bible

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US / ˈbaɪbl /

UK / ˈbaɪbl /

B1
  • noun
  • Book of collected Christian writings

hate

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US / heɪt /

UK / het /

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  • noun
  • Severe, deep sense of dislike or anger
  • An object that you hate
  • verb
  • To have a very strong feeling of dislike for

share

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US / ʃeə(r) /

UK / ʃɛr /

A2
  • noun
  • Part-ownership in a property, business or company
  • Part of a company you own, shown by a certificate
  • verb
  • To divide something between two or more people
  • To allow others to use your things equally
  • To give information, etc. to someone

call

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US / kɔ:l /

UK / kɔl /

A1
  • noun
  • A order or request for action
  • The sound an animal makes, often when in danger
  • A correct prediction, e.g. a decision in a game
  • A short visit to a place or person
  • A decision by a referee or umpire in a game
  • verb
  • To make a request or order for action
  • (Animal) to make sounds to warn of danger
  • To announce the date of an election
  • To make a judgment about something
  • To give someone or something a name
  • To guess in advance the result or outcome
  • To visit a place or person for a short time
  • To phone someone
  • To speak, announce or shout in a loud voice

far

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US / fɑ:(r) /

UK / fɑr /

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  • adjecitve
  • A long way away
  • Being a long way away
  • adverb
  • To a large degree or extent

owe

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US / əʊ /

UK / o /

A2
  • verb
  • To need to do something in return for a favor etc.
  • To credit someone or thing for making it possible
  • To have a commitment to pay someone for something

only

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US / ˈəunli /

UK / ˈonli /

A1
  • adverb
  • Just one; just that amount or thing; not more than
  • Not very important or serious
  • Just that type of thing, person
  • Short time ago; not before a certain time
  • conjunction
  • Except; but

ten

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US / ten /

UK / tɛn /

A1
  • number
  • 10

two

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US / tu: /

UK / tu /

A1
  • number
  • 2

cruelty

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US / ˈkru:əlti /

UK / ˈkruəlti /

B1
  • noun
  • Intention to hurt others or be mean to them

ever

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US / 'evə(r) /

UK / ˈɛvɚ /

A1
  • adverb
  • At any time; at all times in the future

nixon

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US / ˈnɪks(ə)n /

UK / ˈnɪksən /

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point

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US / pɔɪnt /

UK / pɔɪnt /

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  • noun
  • An item to be discussed
  • Small spot or dot
  • Fact or detail
  • Feature of something
  • The size of the text on a page or screen
  • A certain time or stage in a process
  • Certain position in time or space
  • Idea or fact you try to convince people about
  • Measurement of scores in a game, sport
  • Sharp end of something, e.g. a pen or pin
  • verb
  • To face a certain direction, e.g. north
  • To indicate something with your finger to others

third

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US / θɜ:d /

UK / θɜ:rd /

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  • adjecitve
  • 3rd: Number after second

new

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US / nju: /

UK / nu, nju /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Not old, recently born, built or made
  • Being or doing something for the first time
  • Not felt, seen or known previously
  • Having been recently bought or obtained

popular

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US / ˈpɒpjələ(r) /

UK / ˈpɑ:pjələ(r) /

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  • adjecitve
  • Liked or enjoyed by many people

story

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US / 'stɔ:rɪ /

UK / ˈstɔri, ˈstori /

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  • noun
  • One of many floors or levels in a building
  • Account or description of how something happened

debilitate

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US / dɪˈbɪlɪteɪt /

UK / dɪˈbɪlɪteɪt /

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  • verb
  • (Formal) to weaken

feel

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US / fi:l /

UK / fil /

A1
  • verb
  • To be aware of or experience an emotion, sensation
  • To sense through direct contact; touch

previous

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US / ˈpri:viəs /

UK / ˈpriviəs /

A2
  • adjecitve
  • Existing or happening before the present time

reason

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US / 'ri:zn /

UK / ˈrizən /

A1
  • noun
  • Ability to think about facts and form a judgment
  • Explanation for why something occurred or was done
  • verb
  • To think and make conclusions in a logical manner

actually

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US / ˈæktʃuəli /

UK / ˈæktʃuəli /

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  • adverb
  • Used to add new (often different) information

pathological

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US / ˌpæθəˈlɒdʒɪkl /

UK / ˌpæθəˈlɑ:dʒɪkl /

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  • adjecitve
  • (Liar, etc.) behaving in an uncontrollable (bad)
  • Concerning the study of disease

speak

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US / spi:k /

UK / spik /

A1
  • verb
  • To be able to use a certain language
  • To use words to tell information, express thoughts

use

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US / ju:s /

UK / ju:s /

A1
  • noun
  • Ability to employ something
  • Need to enable it to work
  • Permission to do something with something
  • Act of spending money
  • Operation of a machine for its function
  • verb
  • To have; to eat, drink, consume etc.
  • To need to operate or work
  • To operate a machine, e.g. a computer
  • To treat a person badly
  • To do something with, for a task or purpose

age

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US / eɪdʒ /

UK / edʒ /

A1
  • verb
  • To keep food, wine for a long time to improve it
  • To get older
  • noun
  • Period of time in history
  • Number of years a person or thing has lived

should

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US / ʃʊd /

UK / ʃʊd /

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  • other
  • Used to indicate what is proper or reasonable

after

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  • adverb
  • Later than another time, or behind something
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  • Following something before
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  • When an event happened or time has passed

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  • For a very long time
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  • Desire or choice of someone
  • Document saying who gets your money when you die
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  • To leave property to someone after your death
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  • To make a statement in a strong and confident way
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  • In conformity with fixed ideas or beliefs

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  • To think creatively about; form mental picture of

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  • adjecitve
  • Poisonous; harmful
  • (Of relationships) harmful; causing conflict
  • Introduction to Video Content
  • The Western world, particularly America, is facing a pandemic that is rarely discussed or addressed, but has devastating effects on individuals and families. This pandemic doesn't result in physical death like COVID-19, but it does destroy lives, tear apart families, and inflict immeasurable pain. What is this pandemic, you may ask? It is the rising phenomenon of individuals who choose to cut off communication with one or both of their parents, going as far as denying their own children the chance to interact with their grandparents.There are three main reasons behind this disturbing trend. The first reason is the growing popularity of the therapeutic mentality. In the past, people were governed by a sense of responsibility and moral obligations. However, with the advent of psychotherapy, a paradigm shift occurred. The therapeutic model became the new guide to behavior, and the idea of "shoulds" was replaced by the belief that there are no obligations. A common sentiment of the time was that there are no shoulds in life.To illustrate this point, let me share a personal family story. Despite having a difficult relationship with his mother, my father made it a point to call her every night. Unfortunately, these calls often led to her yelling at him. As a child, I would overhear these interactions because my father would occasionally place the phone on the kitchen table. If my father had been born in a later generation and sought therapy, the therapist might have encouraged him to stop communicating with his mother, deeming her toxic and giving him permission to sever ties. A culture that embraced the idea that there are no shoulds in life would have supported this decision. However, my father lived in an era where moral obligations were still valued. Furthermore, as a religious Jew, he had been taught the Ten Commandments from a young age, one of which emphasized the importance of honoring one's parents.It is important to understand the consequences of this break in familial bonds. When individuals choose to sever ties with their parents, not only do they inflict pain on their parents, but they also deny themselves and their children the opportunity for a meaningful relationship with their grandparents. Grandparents play a crucial role in the upbringing of children, offering love, wisdom, and a sense of family history. By depriving their children of this connection, individuals perpetuate a cycle of broken relationships and emotional turmoil.To address this pandemic, we must recognize the significance of familial relationships and the responsibility we have towards our parents. This does not mean tolerating abuse or neglect, but rather finding ways to heal and rebuild these relationships. Therapy can play a positive role in this process, helping individuals navigate their emotions and establish healthier boundaries. However, it is crucial to question the therapeutic mentality that dismisses familial obligations and instead prioritize the values of love, forgiveness, and honoring our parents.In conclusion, the pandemic of individuals who cut off communication with their parents is a critical issue that needs to be addressed. By understanding its causes and consequences, we can work towards rebuilding broken relationships and fostering a culture that values the importance of family and honoring our parents. It is time to recognize that our parents deserve our love and respect, and it is in our hands to break the cycle of pain and create a future of restored familial connections.
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  • There is a pandemic in the Western world, especially, but not only in America, that few are talking about, let alone addressing.
  • This pandemic doesn't actually kill people, but it does ruin lives, crush families, and cause debilitating pain, far more than most cases of COVID What pandemic am I talking about?
  • The pandemic of people who do not speak to one or both of their parents.
  • Why have these people decided to hurt their parents in one of the worst ways possible, to the extent of not even allowing their parents contact with their grandchildren?
  • There are three primary reasons.
  • The first is the rise of the therapeutic mentality.
  • Prior to the explosion of psychotherapy, people were governed by shoulds.
  • But beginning in the the the therapeutic model replaced the moral model as the guide to one's behavior.
  • A popular phrase at the time was, there are no shoulds.
  • I'll use a family story to illustrate this point.
  • Despite the fact that his mother was a very difficult woman, my father called her every night.
  • And every night, she would yell at him.
  • As a child, I heard this because instead of holding the phone to his ear, my father would periodically place the phone on the kitchen table.
  • Had my father been born a generation later and told a therapist how much he dreaded calling his mother, the therapist would likely have led my father to believe there was no reason he should talk to her.
  • The therapist would have declared my grandmother toxic and given my father permission to avoid calling her.
  • A culture that declared there are no shoulds would have concurred.
  • But my father lived in the age of shoulds.
  • Moreover, he was a religious Jew who had been taught the Ten Commandments since childhood, the fifth of which is, honor your father and your mother.
  • And he believed, as did most Americans, that the Ten Commandments were given by God.
  • In our secular age, the Ten Commandments are largely ignored.
  • In fact, there are no God given commandments.
  • Instead, you do what you feel is right.
  • If you don't feel like talking to your mother or father, you don't.
  • My father, governed by the Ten Commandments and many other shoulds, called his mother every night despite the fact that he rarely felt like doing so.
  • A second reason for this pandemic is parental alienation.
  • This is usually caused by one parent against the other during or after a divorce, frequently, though certainly not always, by the mother against the father.
  • She is so angry at her ex husband,
  • that she has decided to hurt him in one of the worst possible ways, by convincing one or more of their children that their father is a terrible human being, unworthy of their love, respect, or even time.
  • The children should have nothing to do with him.
  • A third reason for this pandemic is ideological.
  • This is the newest excuse for cutting ties with parents.
  • I suspect few people in previous generations encountered parents whose children didn't speak to them because of how the parent voted.
  • Many Americans hated Richard Nixon, but it's hard to imagine grown men and women in the late the late or early who refused to speak to their parents because the parents voted for Nixon.
  • But many parents who voted for Donald Trump have a child who does not speak to them.
  • For the record, I am not speaking about myself.
  • My two sons and two step sons and I speak frequently, love one another, and share values.
  • I know how lucky I am.
  • I have met a lot of good people who have at least one child who no longer speaks to them.
  • Yes, there are times when a parent is so abusive, pathological, or evil that communication becomes essentially impossible.
  • And it is important to note, you do not have to love your parents.
  • just talk to them.
  • Even the Bible, which commands people to love their neighbor, to love the stranger, and to love God, never commands us to love our parents.
  • But at the very least, we owe them this, not to inflict terrible pain on them.
  • Indeed, the infliction of such pain on a parent is about as great an act of cruelty as most people will ever inflict on another human being.
  • If there is a God who gave the Ten Commandments, these people will be judged accordingly.
  • I'm Dennis Prager.