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Why You Feel Unlovable

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laughter

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US / ˈlɑ:ftə(r) /

UK / ˈlæftɚ, ˈlɑf- /

A2
  • noun
  • Action or sound of laughing

just

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US / dʒʌst /

UK / dʒʌst /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Proper or appropriate; as is deserved
  • Doing or being what is right or fair
  • Legally correct; having enough evidence
  • adverb
  • Almost; nearly
  • Exactly at the time of
  • Exactly (the same as, like)

neural

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US / ˈnjuərəl /

UK / ˈnʊrəl, ˈnjʊr- /

B2
  • adjecitve
  • About the nerves or nervous system

earth

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US / ɜ:θ /

UK / ɚθ /

A1
  • noun
  • Wire connecting an electrical device to the ground
  • The planet we live on
  • Soil in which we grow plants

fact

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US / fækt /

UK / fækt /

A1
  • noun
  • Something that is known or proved to be true

standard

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US / 'stændəd /

UK / ˈstændəd /

A2
  • adjecitve
  • Being the accepted normal level of quality
  • (Of a language) being the most accepted in a place
  • noun
  • Official unit of measuring something
  • Principle of behaving in a moral way

begin

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US / bɪ'ɡɪn /

UK / ˈbeɡɪn /

A1
  • verb
  • To do the first part of an action; to start

soon

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US / su:n /

UK / sun /

A1
  • adverb
  • At a time not long from now

trauma

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US / 'trɔ:mə /

UK / ˈtraʊmə /

B2
  • noun
  • A very severe or upsetting experience
  • Serious injury to part of the body

water

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US / 'wɔ:tə(r) /

UK / ˈwɔtɚ, ˈwɑtɚ /

A1
  • noun
  • Clear liquid that forms the seas, rivers and rain
  • Large area such as an ocean or sea
  • verb
  • (Of the eyes) to produce tears
  • (Mouth) to become wet at the thought of nice food
  • To pour liquids onto a plant to keep it alive

such

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US / sʌtʃ /

UK / sʌtʃ /

A1
  • determiner
  • Being similar to
  • (Thing) as previously stated or referred to
  • adverb
  • (Used to emphasize the quality of an adjective)

unworthy

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US / ʌnˈwɜ:ði /

UK / ʌnˈwɜ:rði /

B2
  • adjecitve
  • Lacking in value or merit; not deserving help

well

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US / wel /

UK / wɛl /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Being in a fortunate, good condition or state
  • Healthy and in good condition
  • adverb
  • In an acceptable, proper, or successful manner
  • In a complete, total, or full manner
  • A great and considerable degree
  • In a successful way, in a good or satisfactory way
  • exclamation
  • Used to begin or continue a particular statement
  • Used to show you want to start saying something
  • Used to express that you are waiting for a reply
  • You say this to change the topic of a conversation
  • Used to indicate you are making a final remark
  • noun
  • Long deep hole in the ground to get water
  • verb
  • To cause your eyes to fill with tears

yourself

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US / jɔ:ˈself /

UK / jʊrˈsɛlf, jɔr-, jor-, jə- /

A1
  • pronoun
  • Reflexive form of 'you', used for an emphasis

within

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US / wɪˈðɪn /

UK / wɪðˈɪn, wɪθ- /

A1
  • adverb
  • Inside the limits of an area, time or range
  • preposition
  • From the inside of something

for

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US / fə(r) /

UK / fɔr,fə /

A1
  • preposition
  • Used to show the purpose, or need of something

therapy

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US / 'θerəpɪ /

UK / ˈθɛrəpi /

B2
  • noun
  • Treatment to help cure an illness

through

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US / θru: /

UK / θru /

A2
  • adjecitve
  • having finished using or doing something
  • adverb
  • From the beginning of something until the end
  • preposition
  • Over, in, across an entire thing or place
  • Allowing you to pass between, or to
  • By a particular way or process; by the use of

time

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US / taɪm /

UK / taɪm /

A1
  • noun
  • Speed at which music is played; tempo
  • Point as shown on a clock, e.g. 3 p.m
  • Number of hours, minutes needed to do something
  • Occasion when something happens
  • Period or occasion that something occurred
  • Period in history or the past
  • Something measured in minutes, hours, days, etc.
  • How long an event takes; duration
  • verb
  • To check speed at which music is performed
  • To choose a specific moment to do something
  • To measure how long an event takes, e.g. a race
  • To schedule something to occur at a specific moment

why

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US / waɪ /

UK / hwaɪ, waɪ /

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  • adverb
  • Question word to ask for a reason
  • exclamation
  • (Used to express surprise or approval)

define

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US / dɪ'faɪn /

UK / dɪˈfaɪn /

A2
  • verb
  • To explain the meaning of words
  • To set or mark the limits of something

those

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US / ðəʊz /

UK / ðoz /

A1
  • determiner
  • The people or things we are talking about
  • pronoun
  • The objects far from the speaker

victim

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US / ˈvɪktɪm /

UK / ˈvɪktɪm /

B1
  • noun
  • Person/thing affected by an unpleasant event
  • Person/animal killed and offered as a sacrifice
  • Person feeling helpless in times of bad luck
  • Person who is tricked or made to suffer

amount

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US / ə'maʊnt /

UK / əˈmaʊnt /

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  • noun
  • Quantity of something
  • verb
  • To add up to a certain figure

never

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US / 'nevə(r) /

UK / ˈnɛvɚ /

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  • adverb
  • Not ever; not at any time

replace

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US / rɪ'pleɪs /

UK / rɪˈples /

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  • verb
  • To use instead of something else
  • To return an item to its original location

perfectly

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US / ˈpɜ:fɪktli /

UK / ˈpəfɪktli /

A2
  • adverb
  • In a faultless manner; without mistakes

someone

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US / ˈsʌmwʌn /

UK / ˈsʌmˌwʌn, -wən /

A1
  • pronoun
  • Person who is not known or named

true

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US / tru: /

UK / tru: /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Agreeing with the facts; not false; real or actual

survival

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US / səˈvaɪvl /

UK / sɚˈvaɪvəl /

A2
  • noun
  • Act of continuing to exist when facing difficulty

withdraw

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US / wɪð'drɔ: /

UK / wɪðˈdrɔ, wɪθ- /

B1
  • verb
  • To take money out of a bank account
  • To pull back; move away or backward from something
  • To remove something from its place or position
  • To stop taking a strong, usually illegal, drug
  • To take something back that was given or offered

ever

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US / 'evə(r) /

UK / ˈɛvɚ /

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  • adverb
  • At any time; at all times in the future

explain

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US / ɪk'spleɪn /

UK / ɪkˈsplen /

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  • verb
  • To make clear or easy to understand by describing

basic

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US / 'beɪsɪk /

UK / ˈbesɪk /

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  • adjecitve
  • At the most important or easiest (beginner) level

feel

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US / fi:l /

UK / fil /

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  • verb
  • To be aware of or experience an emotion, sensation
  • To sense through direct contact; touch

memory

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US / 'memərɪ /

UK / ˈmɛməri /

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  • noun
  • Ability of the mind to call back past things
  • Space for the storage of information on a computer
  • Something that has been remembered

too

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US / tu: /

UK / tu /

A1
  • adverb
  • In addition, also; with emphasis
  • Say that something is more than you want

new

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US / nju: /

UK / nu, nju /

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  • adjecitve
  • Not old, recently born, built or made
  • Being or doing something for the first time
  • Not felt, seen or known previously
  • Having been recently bought or obtained

meantime

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US / ˈmi:ntaɪm /

UK / ˈminˌtaɪm /

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  • noun
  • For the present; for a while

inside

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US / ˌɪn'saɪd /

UK / ɪnˈsaɪd, ˈɪnˌsaɪd /

A2
  • adjecitve
  • Being in something
  • Being in a building
  • adverb
  • Into a house; indoors
  • noun
  • Inner part or surface of something

matter

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US / 'mætə(r) /

UK / ˈmætɚ /

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  • noun
  • Material all things are made of that fills space
  • Problem or reason for concern
  • verb
  • To be of great importance; to count

many

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US / 'menɪ /

UK / ˈmɛni /

A1
  • determiner
  • Used to refer a large number of things

shame

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US / ʃeɪm /

UK / ʃem /

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  • noun
  • Feeling of guilt because you did something wrong
  • verb
  • To make someone feel ashamed

shelter

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US / 'ʃeltə(r) /

UK / ˈʃɛltɚ /

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  • noun
  • Place to protect people/animals from abuse
  • Structure that covers or protects things
  • State of being protected from danger, bad weather
  • verb
  • To give animals, people a place away from abuse
  • To find protection from danger/bad weather

survivor

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US / səˈvaɪvə(r) /

UK / sərˈvaɪvə(r) /

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  • noun
  • Person, thing that continues to live or exist

will

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US / wɪl /

UK / wɪl /

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  • noun
  • Desire or choice of someone
  • Document saying who gets your money when you die
  • Strong desire to do something; determination
  • Desire to do something; strong wish to do
  • other
  • Used with verbs to express the future
  • verb
  • To leave property to someone after your death
  • To use mental effort to make something happen
  • Am (is, are) likely to do
  • To influence someone to do something
  • To make something happen by strongly wanting it

deserve

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US / dɪ'zɜ:v /

UK / dɪˈzɚv /

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  • verb
  • To be worthy of, e.g. getting praise or attention

baby

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US / ˈbeɪbi /

UK / ˈbeɪbi /

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  • adjecitve
  • Small in size; smaller than usual
  • noun
  • A very young child, who cannot yet speak
  • verb
  • To treat someone as if they were newly born

essentially

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US / ɪˈsenʃəli /

UK / ɪˈsenʃəli /

A2
  • adverb
  • Basically; (said when stating the basic facts)

crush

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US / krʌʃ /

UK / krʌʃ /

B1
  • noun
  • Strong attraction to someone
  • verb
  • To break something into small pieces by pressing
  • To defeat someone or something (in a game)
  • To damage something by flattening it
  • To cause someone to feel humiliated

tumblr

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US / tʌm /

UK / tʌm /

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understanding

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US / ˌʌndəˈstændɪŋ /

UK / ˌʌndərˈstændɪŋ /

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  • adjecitve
  • Being sympathetic
  • noun
  • When you get the meaning correctly; comprehension
  • Knowledge about something or someone
  • verb
  • To know the meaning of language, what someone says

action

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US / 'ækʃn /

UK / ˈækʃən /

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  • noun
  • Something that a person or thing does
  • verb
  • To act to do something

distort

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US / dɪ'stɔ:t /

UK / dɪˈstɔrt /

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  • verb
  • To change the shape, appearance, or sound
  • To exaggerate the truth or fact, e.g. to deceive

first

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US / fɜ:st /

UK / fɚst /

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  • adjecitve
  • 1st; Coming before all others in time or place
  • noun
  • Something that has not happened before
  • Position of the winner of a competition

get

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US / ɡet /

UK / ɡɛt /

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  • verb
  • To become affected by illness or disease
  • To begin to feel or understand an emotion or idea
  • To send or bring someone or something home, etc.
  • To go somewhere to obtain something
  • To (cause to) do a particular thing
  • To obtain, receive or be given something
  • To currently have
  • To prepare for use
  • To understand something being said or read

neuroscience

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US / ˈnjʊərəʊsaɪəns /

UK / ˌnʊroˈsaɪəns, ˌnjʊr- /

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  • noun
  • Scientific study of the nervous system

anymore

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US / 'enɪmɔ: /

UK / ˌɛniˈmɔr, -ˈmor /

A2
  • adverb
  • No longer; no more

confront

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US / kən'frʌnt /

UK / kənˈfrʌnt /

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  • verb
  • To make someone, e.g. who has lied, face the truth
  • (Of problem) to face someone who must deal with it

comment

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US / 'kɒment /

UK / ˈkɑmɛnt /

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  • noun
  • Something you say, giving an opinion; remark
  • verb
  • To say something that gives your opinion

down

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US / daʊn /

UK / daʊn /

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  • adjecitve
  • Being sad, sick, or unhappy
  • Not operating, working, or functioning as expected
  • adverb
  • In a sitting or lying position
  • Towards or on the ground, floor, or bottom
  • Written or copied onto a piece of paper or book
  • noun
  • A period of play in American Football
  • The soft, smooth hairs that cover a bird's body
  • preposition
  • Along something's path, course, or direction
  • Going from a higher position to a lower position
  • verb
  • To eat or drink very quickly and without stopping

family

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US / 'fæməlɪ /

UK / ˈfæmli /

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  • noun
  • Close group of people or organizations
  • A group of people who are related through blood
  • Group of related plants or animals

include

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US / ɪnˈklu:d /

UK / ɪnˈklud /

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  • verb
  • To make someone, something part of a group

again

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US / ə'ɡen /

UK / əˈɡɛn /

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  • adverb
  • One more time, once more

like

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US / laɪk /

UK / laɪk /

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  • adjecitve
  • Being equal in status or kind to something else
  • Similar; the same
  • adverb
  • For example
  • preposition
  • Used as a filler; used to ad emphasis
  • In a way similar to the way something is done
  • Such as; for example
  • verb
  • To want to
  • To find something pleasing; to prefer something

people

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US / 'pi:pl /

UK / ˈpipəl /

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  • noun
  • Persons sharing culture, country, background, etc.
  • Men, Women, Children

that

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US / ðæt /

UK / ðæt, ðət /

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  • adjecitve
  • The person or thing being talked about
  • Used to identify something both the speakers know
  • adverb
  • Used to reinforce adjectives and adverbs
  • To such a degree
  • conjunction
  • Used to connect a noun clause
  • Used to introduce an adverbial clause
  • Used to introduce a noun clause
  • determiner
  • Used as a noun to refer to something
  • pronoun
  • Referring an object far away
  • Used to refer to the relative pronoun ‘which’

what

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US / wɒt /

UK / hwɑt, hwʌt, wɔt, wʌt,hwət, wət /

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  • pronoun
  • Thing or things that; the same kind as
  • Used to emphasize something you are about to say
  • adjecitve
  • Used to refer to a particular amount, or number
  • Used to place emphasis on a particular quality
  • adverb
  • To a certain degree
  • determiner
  • Question words used for asking for information
  • exclamation
  • Used to express excitement, shock, or surprise
  • Used to ask people to repeat something they said

example

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US / ɪgˈzɑ:mpl /

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  • noun
  • Thing, person which represents a category

happen

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US / 'hæpən /

UK / ˈhæpən /

A1
  • verb
  • To take place or occur

language

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US / ˈlæŋgwɪdʒ /

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  • noun
  • Words or signs used to communicate messages

tell

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US / tel /

UK / tɛl /

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  • verb
  • To (strongly) advise a person to do something
  • To be able to guess
  • To say or communicate information to someone
  • To inform, but without speaking; indicate
  • To have a negative effect on someone
  • To order someone to do something; command
  • To recognize something based on certain signs
  • To report something to an authority
  • To explain something or teach someone something

understandably

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US / ˌʌndəˈstændəbli /

UK / ˌʌndɚˈstændəblɪ /

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  • adverb
  • In a way that makes sense; justifiably

york

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US / jɔ:k /

UK / jɔrk /

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  • proper noun
  • A city in northern England, on the Ouse River; population 136,900 (est. 2009).
  • A commercial and industrial city in southeastern Pennsylvania; population 40,097 (est. 2008).
  • The southwestern tip of Hayes Peninsula, on Baffin Bay in Greenland. It served as a base for US expl

enough

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US / ɪˈnʌf /

UK / ɪˈnʌf /

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  • adjecitve
  • Sufficient to answer the need
  • adverb
  • To a satisfactory degree
  • pronoun
  • Equal to what is needed; as much as required
  • Adequate number or amount

find

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US / faɪnd /

UK / faɪnd /

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  • noun
  • Object discovered by chance
  • Things that have been discovered from searching
  • verb
  • To become aware of something that is happening
  • To discover or meet by chance
  • To decide if someone is guilty of a crime, or not
  • To learn through study, research, or effort
  • To discover something by looking for it

inherently

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US / ɪn'herəntlɪ /

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  • adverb
  • As an essential part of

mean

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US / mi:n /

UK / min /

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  • adjecitve
  • Being good at
  • Nasty; unkind
  • Not liking to spend money; cheap; stingy
  • noun
  • Average of a set of numbers
  • verb
  • To express a particular idea or thought
  • To intend to do something in particular
  • To have a particular meaning or value

type

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US / taɪp /

UK / taɪp /

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  • noun
  • Printed letters or blocks used for printing them
  • Group of things or people sharing common features
  • verb
  • To identify something belonging to a group
  • To write by touching keys on a keyboard

into

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US / 'ɪntə /

UK / ˈɪntu /

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  • preposition
  • Moving or going inside something
  • In the same direction as; in the direction of
  • So as to become; taking the state of

lucky

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US / 'lʌkɪ /

UK / ˈlʌki /

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  • adjecitve
  • Fortunate; having good things happen by chance

love

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US / lʌv /

UK / lʌv /

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  • noun
  • Person's name
  • A very strong feeling of affection
  • The person you care very deeply about
  • Strong, deep emotional and sexual attraction
  • verb
  • To care for and like someone very strongly, deeply
  • To like doing very much; enjoy greatly
  • To feel a strong emotional and romantic attraction

one

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US / wʌn /

UK / wʌn /

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  • pronoun
  • You; we; people in general; someone
  • The thing or person previously referred to
  • adjecitve
  • Used to refer to people generally
  • Being a strong example of (something mentioned)
  • number
  • Number 1

other

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US / 'ʌðə(r) /

UK / ˈʌðər /

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  • adjecitve
  • A thing different from that mentioned
  • determiner
  • (Something) else; not the first (one)
  • pronoun
  • Being the one and only thing of that category

psychological

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US / ˌsaɪkəˈlɒdʒɪkl /

UK / ˌsaɪkəˈlɑdʒɪkəl /

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  • adjecitve
  • Concerning the study of the mind
  • Concerning psychology

root

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US / ru:t /

UK / rut, rʊt /

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  • noun
  • Emotional connection with a place, history etc.
  • The origin or starting place of something
  • A number that is multiplied by itself
  • Part of plant growing underground, as to get water
  • Part of tooth, hair etc. from which the rest grows
  • Base part of a word to which affixes can be added
  • verb
  • To cause a plant to develop or grow roots
  • (Animals) to search for e.g. food in earth
  • To stop someone moving, as through fear

also

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US / 'ɔ:lsəʊ /

UK / ˈɔlso /

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  • adverb
  • In addition; too; in a similar way

harvard

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US / ˈhɑːvəd /

UK / ˈhɑrvərd /

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how

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US / haʊ /

UK / haʊ /

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  • adjecitve
  • To what degree? in what amount?
  • adverb
  • (Used to explain the way to do something)
  • exclamation
  • For what purpose or reason?
  • (Used to ask someone or something's condition)

you

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US / jʊ /

UK / ju /

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  • pronoun
  • Person someone is speaking or writing to
  • Person or people in general

alone

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US / ə'ləʊn /

UK / əˈlon /

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  • adjecitve
  • Apart from others
  • Without equal
  • adverb
  • Without anyone or anything else

fit

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US / fɪt /

UK / fɪt /

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  • adjecitve
  • Good looking; physically attractive
  • Proper or acceptable; morally or socially correct
  • noun
  • Sudden loss of body control; attack (of crying)
  • verb
  • To install a machine, equipment etc.
  • To adjust or change to the right size or shape
  • To be the right size and shape that you want

let

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US / let /

UK / lɛt /

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  • verb
  • To allow someone to do something
  • Introducing a suggestion to do something together
  • To rent a house, etc. to others

might

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US / maɪt /

UK / maɪt /

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  • other
  • Used to politely request an action
  • Used to express that something could happen
  • Power, strength, force or influence

lead

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US / li:d /

UK / lid /

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  • adjecitve
  • Being the main part in movies or plays
  • noun
  • Wire for electricity, computer, etc.; cable
  • Information that could help to solve a crime
  • Main part in a play or movie
  • Heavy, gray metal element
  • Rope used to tie something to stop it escaping
  • Act of being at the front in a race or game
  • verb
  • To show the way or guide others
  • To be at the front of a race or game
  • To travel in front of; go in advance of others

person

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US / 'pɜ:sn /

UK / 'pɜ:rsn /

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  • noun
  • Man, woman or child

the

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US / ðə /

UK / ðə /

A1
  • article
  • Used to refer to something already mentioned
  • Used to show there is only one of something
  • determiner
  • Used to describe all of a family

abuser

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US / /

UK / /

B1
  • noun
  • Person who treats something or someone cruelly
  • Someone using something in an inappropriate way

may

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US / meɪ /

UK / me /

A1
  • noun
  • 5th month of the year
  • other
  • Used to express a desire
  • Expresses permission, possibility or probability
  • Used to show that a thing could be true

valid

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US / 'vælɪd /

UK / ˈvælɪd /

A2
  • adjecitve
  • Being in effect or in force, often legally
  • Reasonable; based on sound assumptions
  • Working correctly; producing results

word

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US / wɜ:d /

UK / wɚd /

A1
  • noun
  • Unit of language that has a meaning
  • Promise
  • Short remark or piece of information
  • verb
  • To express something by choosing particular words

this

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US / ðɪs /

UK / ðɪs /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Used to indicate something already been discussed
  • Used to indicate something happening around now
  • adverb
  • An indication by a physical motion or gesture
  • A specific amount of
  • determiner
  • Person, thing, or idea near you
  • pronoun
  • Person, thing that has already been discussed

heal

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US / hi:l /

UK / hi:l /

B1
  • verb
  • To recover from or forget a bad experience
  • To make or become healthy or well again

rejection

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US / rɪ'dʒekʃn /

UK / rɪˈdʒɛkʃən /

B1
  • noun
  • Decision that something is not good enough
  • Act of refusing to consider or believe

make

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US / meɪk /

UK / mek /

A1
  • noun
  • Product made by a particular company; brand
  • verb
  • To arrange or prepare something e.g. dinner
  • To get to (a place) on time
  • To gain the status of (teacher, lawyer, etc.)
  • To create something by putting things together
  • To earn a certain amount of money at a job
  • To cause or force a person to do something
  • To cause something to happen or be formed

psychologist

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US / saɪˈkɒlədʒɪst /

UK / saɪˈkɑlədʒɪst /

C2
  • noun
  • An expert who studies the mind and behavior

treat

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US / tri:t /

UK / trit /

A1
  • noun
  • Something you buy for others as a surprise present
  • something that tastes good and that is not eaten often
  • verb
  • To pay for the food or enjoyment of someone else
  • To use medical methods to try to cure an illness
  • To act in a certain way toward someone

accept

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US / ək'sept /

UK / ækˈsɛpt /

A1
  • verb
  • To agree to receive or take something offered
  • To admit that something is true or correct

denial

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US / dɪˈnaɪəl /

UK / dɪˈnaɪəl /

A2
  • noun
  • Statement which claims that something is not true

live

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US / lɪv /

UK / liv /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Being broadcast as events happen, not recorded
  • Carrying electric current; able to give a shock
  • Glowing because burning; hot
  • Not yet killed (for food)
  • adverb
  • (Music, drama) as it is performed
  • verb
  • To be alive
  • To experience a particular type of life
  • To make your home in a house or town

physical

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US / ˈfɪzɪkl /

UK / ˈfɪzɪkəl /

A2
  • adjecitve
  • Concerning the body of a person
  • Concerning things that can be seen or touched
  • noun
  • Health check at the doctors' or hospital

parent

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US / 'peərənt /

UK / ˈpɛrənt, ˈpær- /

A1
  • noun
  • Person's, animal's mother or father
  • Something creating other things of the same kind

state

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US / steɪt /

UK / stet /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Concerning region within a country
  • noun
  • Region within a country, with its own government
  • Situation or condition something is in
  • verb
  • To say; declare as fact

teach

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US / ti:tʃ /

UK / titʃ /

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  • verb
  • To help someone learn or do something

university

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US / ˌju:nɪ'vɜ:sətɪ /

UK / ˌjunɪˈvɜrsəti /

A1
  • noun
  • High-level educational institution; college

early

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US / ˈɜ:li /

UK / ˈɜ:rli /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Happening or appearing before
  • adverb
  • Coming/happening before others in a time sequence
  • Happening sooner than expected

most

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US / məʊst /

UK / most /

A1
  • adverb
  • Very; extremely
  • Greatest possible degree
  • pronoun
  • Nearly all of something

meet

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US / mi:t /

UK / mit /

A1
  • noun
  • Sporting competition e.g. swimming
  • verb
  • To provide something that is necessary
  • To come together at a certain time or place

rewire

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US / ˌri:'waɪə(r) /

UK / riˈwaɪr /

B1
  • verb
  • To put new electricity cables in (a building)

abandon

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US / ə'bændən /

UK / əˈbændən /

B1
  • noun
  • Wild, carefree behavior
  • verb
  • To discard or intentionally get rid of an item
  • To withdraw your support, or leave someone
  • To stop doing or having (hope, plans); give up
  • To leave a place, car and not go back
  • To surrender to a desire, with little self-control

and

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US / ənd /

UK / ənd, ən,ænd /

A1
  • conjunction
  • Used to refer to two or more things
  • Plus; in addition; on top of that
  • Used to introduce an action that follows another

back

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US / bæk /

UK / bæk /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Farthest from the front e.g. in a classroom
  • adverb
  • Have returned to a place you were before
  • noun
  • The part of a chair that the upper body leans upon
  • Location at the rear of something
  • The reverse of side something
  • Area on the rear of your body
  • verb
  • To bet money on something
  • To go backwards in a car
  • To support and encourage someone or some cause

pain

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US / peɪn /

UK / pen /

A1
  • noun
  • Strong feeling of hurt or discomfort
  • Something or someone that bothers or upsets you
  • verb
  • To cause someone to feel upset or worry

psychology

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US / saɪ'kɒlədʒɪ /

UK / saɪˈkɑlədʒi /

C2
  • noun
  • The study of the mind and how it affects behavior
  • Way in which a person or group thinks and behaves

come

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US / kʌm /

UK / kʌm /

A1
  • verb
  • To arrive at a place
  • (Of mail) to be delivered
  • To move toward someone; go with someone
  • To reach a certain point or state

help

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US / help /

UK / hɛlp /

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  • noun
  • Something given to enable a person to do something
  • Assistance given to someone in need
  • Someone who makes something easier or possible
  • verb
  • To act to enable a person to do something; assist
  • To make something better or less difficult

unlovable

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US / 'ʌnlʌvəbl /

UK / 'ʌnlʌvəbl /

A2
  • adjecitve
  • Not capable of inspiring love or affection

think

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US / θɪŋk /

UK / θɪŋk /

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  • verb
  • To have an idea about something without certainty
  • To have an idea, opinion or belief about something

mental

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US / ˈmentl /

UK / ˈmɛntl /

A2
  • adjecitve
  • Concerning the mind

real

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US / rɪəl /

UK / ˈriəl, ril /

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  • adjecitve
  • Actually existing or happening, not imagined
  • Being important or special

sometimes

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US / ˈsʌmtaɪmz /

UK / ˈsʌmˌtaɪmz /

A1
  • adverb
  • Only at certain times; occasionally

anything

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US / ˈeniθɪŋ /

UK / ˈɛniˌθɪŋ /

A1
  • pronoun
  • A thing of any kind

along

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US / əˈlɒŋ /

UK / əˈlɔ:ŋ /

A1
  • adverb
  • As a companion; taken with someone
  • preposition
  • At a point on a line

from

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US / frəm /

UK / frʌm, frɑm,frəm /

A1
  • preposition
  • Starting at a particular place, time or level

healing

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US / ˈhi:lɪŋ /

UK / 'hi:lɪŋ /

B1
  • noun
  • Act of helping others to recover their health
  • verb
  • To recover from or forget a bad experience
  • To make or become healthy or well again

out

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US / aʊt /

UK / aʊt /

A1
  • adverb
  • No longer stylish (e.g. fashion)
  • Away from home, business, or the usual place
  • In a direction/movement away from inside or center
  • noun
  • Act when a batter cannot continue playing
  • verb
  • To tell people a secret

share

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US / ʃeə(r) /

UK / ʃɛr /

A2
  • noun
  • Part-ownership in a property, business or company
  • Part of a company you own, shown by a certificate
  • verb
  • To divide something between two or more people
  • To allow others to use your things equally
  • To give information, etc. to someone

connection

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US / kəˈnekʃn /

UK / kəˈnɛkʃən /

A2
  • noun
  • Something that joins things together; being joined
  • Person you know who can help you in some way
  • Changing vehicles when traveling

illness

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US / ˈɪlnəs /

UK / ˈɪlnɪs /

A2
  • noun
  • Unhealthy condition of the mind or body

only

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US / ˈəunli /

UK / ˈonli /

A1
  • adverb
  • Just one; just that amount or thing; not more than
  • Not very important or serious
  • Just that type of thing, person
  • Short time ago; not before a certain time
  • conjunction
  • Except; but

something

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US / ˈsʌmθɪŋ /

UK / ˈsʌmθɪŋ /

A1
  • adverb
  • In some degree or measure
  • noun
  • a person or thing of some value or consequence
  • pronoun
  • Thing that is not yet known or named
  • Approximately

could

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US / kəd /

UK / kʊd /

A1
  • other
  • Past form of 'can' to mean have ability
  • Used to ask for something politely, or to offer

know

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US / nəʊ /

UK / noʊ /

A1
  • verb
  • To be familiar with a person or place, thing
  • To feel sure or be convinced about something
  • To discover or be aware of something
  • To be able to distinguish
  • To have knowledge of things

moment

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US / 'məʊmənt /

UK / 'moʊmənt /

A1
  • noun
  • Very short or brief period of time
  • A particular period in time

often

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US / ˈɔfən /

UK / ˈɔfən,ˈɑfən,ˈɔftən,ˈɑf- /

A1
  • adverb
  • Many times; frequently; on many occasions

unconscious

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US / ʌnˈkɒnʃəs /

UK / ʌnˈkɑnʃəs /

B1
  • adjecitve
  • Not aware of what is going on around you
  • Not being deliberate or on purpose

his

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US / hɪz /

UK / hɪz /

A1
  • pronoun
  • Something belonging to a male person

with

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US / wɪð /

UK / wɪð, wɪθ /

A1
  • preposition
  • As an employee of a certain company
  • Against something or someone
  • By using something as a means
  • Due to; because of
  • Including
  • Possessing as a feature
  • Related to
  • (Of the manner/attitude by which you do something)
  • Used to express that people or things are together

encode

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US / ɪn'kəʊd /

UK / ɛnˈkod /

B2
  • verb
  • To change a message or information into code

extra

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US / 'ekstrə /

UK / 'ekstrə /

A2
  • adjecitve
  • More than necessary; additional
  • noun
  • Items more than you need; additional items
  • Person who has a small part in a movie
  • Special version of a newspaper

have

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US / həv /

UK / hæv /

A1
  • verb
  • To drink, smoke, eat or use something
  • To experience the effects of something
  • To organize an event, or join in an activity
  • To own, possess, or hold something
  • To cause to happen or produce a particular effect

bear

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US / bɛː /

UK / bɛr /

A2
  • noun
  • Large brown animal with fur that lives in forests
  • Someone who expects stock market to fall
  • verb
  • To accept (responsibilities or duties)
  • To give birth to a child; to produce fruit
  • To accept or suffer the weight of difficulties
  • To keep moving left or right while going forward
  • To show (sign of something)
  • To support the weight of something, e.g. a bridge

raise

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US / reɪz /

UK / rez /

A1
  • noun
  • Increase in a bet above another when playing cards
  • Pay increase
  • verb
  • To increase a bet above another when playing cards
  • To gather donations for a cause or charity
  • To bring up and educate a child to maturity
  • To bring a dead person to life
  • To increase a quantity, size, intensity or price
  • To lift (e.g. your hand) to a higher position
  • To mention a topic /issue for discussion; bring up
  • To increase (salary, etc.)
  • To grow or care for plants or animals

confusion

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US / kən'fju:ʒən /

UK / kənˈfjuʒən /

B1
  • noun
  • Not knowing what to do; state of disorder

center

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US / 'sentə /

UK / ˈsɛntɚ /

A1
  • noun
  • Community place people go health or social reasons
  • Place in the middle of something
  • Person or thing that is attracting attention
  • verb
  • To direct focus toward something

remember

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US / rɪ'membə(r) /

UK / rɪˈmɛmbɚ /

A1
  • verb
  • To give someone a gift, e.g. birthday, wedding
  • To hold a thought in your mind to not forget it
  • To bring a previous image or idea to your mind

accord

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US / ə'kɔ:d /

UK / əˈkɔ:rd /

B1
  • noun
  • Agreement or harmony
  • An agreement or treaty between countries
  • verb
  • To be in harmony or agreement; consent
  • To give (someone) the respect due to them

see

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US / si: /

UK / si /

A1
  • verb
  • To go on a date with someone
  • To predict whether something is, or will be true
  • To understand what someone says
  • To use your eyes to look at something
  • To visit a place often for sightseeing or pleasure
  • To visit or meet with someone
  • To find out by waiting or looking
  • To watch (a game, movie or TV show)

counsel

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US / ˈkaʊnsl /

UK / ˈkaʊnsəl /

B1
  • verb
  • To listen and give expert advice to someone

group

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US / ɡru:p /

UK / ɡrup /

A1
  • noun
  • Two or more musicians who play music together
  • Number of people or things gathered together
  • verb
  • To combine or collect objects or people together

young

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US / jʌŋ /

UK / jʌŋ /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • At an early stage of existence; not mature
  • Being recently created or started
  • noun
  • Babies in a group or family of animals

world

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US / wɜ:ld /

UK / wɜrld /

A1
  • noun
  • All the humans, events, activities on the earth
  • Political division due to some kind of similarity

attachment

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US / əˈtætʃmənt /

UK / əˈtætʃmənt /

A2
  • noun
  • Act of connecting one thing to another
  • File added to an email message
  • Strong affection for someone or something

instinctual

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US / ɪn'stɪŋktʃʊəl /

UK / ɪnˈstɪŋktʃuəl /

B1
  • adjecitve
  • In an intuitive manner

lovable

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US / ˈlʌvəbl /

UK / ˈlʌvəbəl /

A2
  • adjecitve
  • Arousing affection; funny; likeable

theory

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US / ˈθiəri /

UK / ˈθiəri, ˈθɪri /

A2
  • noun
  • Ideas or principles that explain facts or events

else

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US / els /

UK / ɛls /

A1
  • adverb
  • Otherwise; if you fail to
  • (Of person place thing etc.) besides; in addition

their

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US / ðɛː /

UK / ðer /

A1
  • determiner
  • Belonging to them

way

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US / weɪ /

UK / we /

A1
  • adverb
  • Used to emphasize the amount of something
  • noun
  • Particular aspect of something being thought about
  • One of various choices that could be made
  • Particular existing condition or state
  • (Often long) distance or length of time
  • How something is done
  • Route to go to a place
  • Small street
  • Usual behavior, emotions or habits of someone

all

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US / ɔ:l /

UK / ɔl /

A1
  • adverb
  • Completely; totally
  • determiner
  • Being every one of something
  • pronoun
  • 100% of something; the complete amount

empty

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US / 'emptɪ /

UK / ˈɛmpti /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Containing nothing; with no contents
  • Without emotions, feelings, meaning or force
  • noun
  • Item, e.g. a bottle, whose contents have been used
  • verb
  • To remove the contents from something

mock

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US / mɒk /

UK / mɑk /

B1
  • adjecitve
  • Not genuine or real, but attempting to appear so
  • verb
  • To laugh at someone or something in an unkind way

professor

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US / prəˈfesə(r) /

UK / prəˈfɛsɚ /

A2
  • noun
  • Teacher who teaches at a college or university

who

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US / hu: /

UK / hu /

A1
  • pronoun
  • Which person
  • Used to introduce information about people

abuse

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US / ə'bju:s /

UK / əˈbjuz /

A2
  • noun
  • Improper/dishonest/excessive use of something
  • Insulting someone, e.g. by swearing at them
  • verb
  • To mistreat or be cruel towards someone
  • To use in an inappropriate or excessive way
  • To use something wrongly or dishonestly
  • To insult someone or swear at them

post

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US / pəʊst /

UK / post /

A1
  • noun
  • Message delivered or shared in an online group
  • Piece of wood, metal in the ground for support
  • Job or position within an organization or company
  • Place where a soldier, etc. is ordered to go
  • verb
  • To send a letter or package using stamps
  • To share a message on an internet discussion group
  • To send a soldier somewhere to do a job
  • To put a message in public for everyone to see

fear

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US / fɪə(r) /

UK / fɪr /

A1
  • noun
  • Unpleasant feeling caused by being aware of danger
  • verb
  • To be afraid of or nervous about something

linda

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painful

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US / ˈpeɪnfl /

UK / ˈpenfəl /

A2
  • adjecitve
  • Causing or feeling physical pain or hurt

very

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US / 'verɪ /

UK / ˈvɛri /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Concerning a large degree or amount
  • adverb
  • A lot; much; many
  • Used to stress or emphasize a noun

they

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US / ðeɪ /

UK / ðe /

A1
  • pronoun
  • Two or more people, animals, or things

son

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US / sʌn /

UK / sʌn /

A1
  • noun
  • Male child; friendly way of addressing a boy

acceptance

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US / əkˈseptəns /

UK / ækˈsɛptəns /

A2
  • noun
  • Act of accepting; agreement to accept

disengage

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US / ˌdɪsɪn'ɡeɪdʒ /

UK / ˌdɪsɛnˈɡedʒ /

C1
  • verb
  • To release or remove efforts from something

believe

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US / bɪ'li:v /

UK / bɪˈliv /

A1
  • verb
  • To think or accept that something is true
  • To have a particular opinion about something

blog

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US / blɒɡ /

UK / blɑ:ɡ /

A2
  • noun
  • A shared on-line public journal
  • verb
  • To read, write, or edit a shared on-line journal

country

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US / ˈkʌntri /

UK / ˈkʌntri /

A1
  • noun
  • An area of land that is controlled by a government
  • Open land that is away from towns and cities

human

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US / 'hju:mən /

UK / ˈhjumən /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Concerning or characteristic of people
  • noun
  • A person; a man, woman or child

graham

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US / 'greɪəm /

UK / 'greɪəm /

A1
  • adjective
  • Denoting or made from wholewheat flour that has not been sifted.

equal

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US / 'i:kwəl /

UK / ˈikwəl /

A1
  • adjecitve
  • Same in shape, size, or number
  • verb
  • To add up or be the same as

friend

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US / frend /

UK / frɛnd /

A1
  • noun
  • Person who you like and enjoy being with

experience

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US / ɪk'spɪərɪəns /

UK / ɪkˈspɪriəns /

A1
  • noun
  • Thing a person has done or that happened to them
  • An event at which you learned something
  • Knowledge gained by living life, doing new things
  • verb
  • To gain knowledge by doing things

wire

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US / 'waɪə(r) /

UK / waɪr /

A2
  • noun
  • Thin, flexible thread of metal
  • Thin string of metal used to carry electricity
  • Act of sending a message by telegraph
  • verb
  • To connect two or more things together with cable
  • To send money to someone electronically
  • To send or send word to by telegraph

can

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US / kæn /

UK / kən,kæn /

A1
  • noun
  • A metal container for storing food
  • other
  • Able to; have the skill to; have the time to
  • verb
  • To have permission to
  • To be possible to do
  • To preserve food by sealing it in a metal container

dismissal

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US / dɪsˈmɪsl /

UK / dɪsˈmɪsəl /

A2
  • noun
  • Judgment disposing of the matter without a trial
  • Official notice that you have been fired

perception

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US / pəˈsepʃn /

UK / pɚˈsɛpʃən /

B1
  • noun
  • Way in which one sees or understands something

support

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US / səˈpɔ:t /

UK / səˈpɔrt, -ˈport /

A1
  • noun
  • Assistance or advice given to someone
  • Evidence that helps prove something is true
  • A thing to hold up or prevent from falling down
  • verb
  • To give assistance or advice to someone
  • To help prove or show that something is true
  • To hold up or prevent from falling down

zai

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amy

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US / ə'mju:zɪŋlɪ /

UK / ə'mju:zɪŋlɪ /

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food

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US / fu:d /

UK / fud /

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  • Introduction to Video Content
  • Why You Feel UnlovableFeeling unlovable is a common experience for many individuals, including the famous Psy. This feeling of being unlovable is often accompanied by an empty void inside, especially when it is felt that the person who is needed for love does not reciprocate those feelings. While these feelings are valid and very real, it is important to recognize that they are not facts. Psychologist Dr. Amy Marshall emphasizes that no human is inherently unlovable, and it is crucial not to accept this feeling as a permanent state.To understand why you may feel unlovable, it is helpful to examine the psychological root causes. According to Harley Therapy, a leading psychology group, childhood trauma plays a significant role in adults experiencing feelings of being unlovable. Research in neuroscience and attachment theory supports this notion. Therapist Linda Graham explains that from the moment we are born, we are wired to seek connection and love. Babies and children rely on others for their survival, making the need for connection essential. However, if this need for connection is consistently met with dismissal, indifference, or denial, the instinctual drive to reach out for love is replaced with feelings of rejection and confusion. As a result, the child may learn to fear wanting or needing someone, leading them to disengage and withdraw.Repeated experiences of neglect and emotional pain can have a significant impact on the developing brain. The emotional meaning center in the brain begins to form memories that associate reaching out for connection with pain, creating an unconscious belief that no one is capable of loving the individual. This deep-seated memory distorts perceptions and reinforces the belief that one is unlovable, as explained by Linda Graham.Rejection and abuse are two additional factors that contribute to feelings of being unlovable. The experience of being rejected by friends, romantic partners, or society as a whole can intensify these feelings and reinforce the belief that one is unworthy of love. Similarly, individuals who have endured physical, emotional, or sexual abuse may internalize the blame and believe they are unlovable.The journey towards healing begins with recognizing that feeling unlovable is not an inherent trait but a response to past experiences. By understanding the root causes and challenging these distorted beliefs, it is possible to heal and experience love in a healthy and fulfilling way. It is important to seek support from mental health professionals who specialize in trauma and attachment to guide this healing process. Remember, feeling unlovable is a valid experience, but it does not define your worthiness of love.
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  • Sometimes, Psy feels unlovable.
  • He feels like he'll never be lovable because that's just how it is.
  • He has an empty feeling inside, especially when he doesn't feel loved by the person who he needs it from the most.
  • Do you ever feel this way?
  • If you do, it's okay to have those feelings, but feelings aren't facts.
  • And psychologist Dr. Amy Marshall wants you to know no human is inherently unlovable, so you don't have to ever accept this feeling.
  • But this feeling is valid and very real for you and for many others.
  • And we wanna help you understand why, because by understanding the psychological root cause of why you feel unlovable, you can begin to heal and experience love.
  • An early defining moment.
  • According to the psychology group, Harley Therapy, childhood trauma is a leading cause of adults feeling unlovable.
  • And research in neuroscience and attachment theory supports this view.
  • Therapist Linda Graham explains that you are born into this world wired to need connection.
  • All babies need somebody for their survival.
  • But if that need is met with dismissal, indifference, or denial, that instinctual need to reach out is replaced with a feeling of rejection and confusion, making that baby or a young child disengage and withdraw.
  • Essentially, you may have learned to fear wanting or needing someone.
  • And if these experiences happen often enough in your childhood, the emotional meaning center in your brain begins to encode a memory that reaching out and needing connection equals pain.
  • This becomes an unconscious memory that can distort your perceptions and make you believe that no one can love you, explains Linda.
  • Rejection and abuse.
  • When was the first time you thought you were unlovable?
  • Was it because you told yourself that or was it because someone else told you through their words or actions and you believed them?
  • When Zai thinks back, he's confronted with memories of friends abandoning him, teachers believing he wouldn't amount to anything and mocking laughter from his first crush.
  • Zai learned he wasn't alone when reading a post from the counseling blog on Tumblr and that people in abusive relationships and survivors of trauma can feel unworthy of love.
  • Psychologist Dr. Amy Marshall explains that abusers might tell their victims that they don't deserve better treatment, that they're unworthy of love or that no one else will want them or treat them better.
  • Shame.
  • Shame can make you feel like you don't deserve love because of a mistake you've made and regret, but there's also the shame that can come from something you didn't do, the feeling that who you are is a burden.
  • For example, sometimes the people who raise us have such high standards that you feel like you're only lovable if you perfectly meet these standards all the time.
  • Have your parents ever said something like, the Smith's son just got into Harvard, aren't his parents so lucky?
  • It's this type of language that can make you feel unworthy, explains BetterHelp.
  • Not only that, but if you don't fit within your family's cultural expectations, it can understandably make you feel inadequate.
  • Or if you live with a mental or physical illness, you might feel like a burden to your family because of the extra support you need.
  • How to heal.
  • Professor of psychology at the State University of New York says that studies confirm that love is one of the basic human needs along with having food, shelter and water.
  • No baby born on this earth is undeserving of that basic human need.
  • And that includes you.
  • You were born deserving of love and who you are today deserves love too, no matter what you've been through.
  • If you've been taught that you're unworthy of love, that's just not true.
  • And with the help of therapy and new loving relationships, you can rewire your brain and those painful memories will be replaced with new neural connections of love and acceptance.
  • As therapist Linda Graham says, with healing, love and acceptance becomes the response and shame becomes the back country road.
  • You don't have to go down anymore.
  • Did you find this video helpful?
  • If you did, please let us know in the comments.
  • And if you think this video could help someone else, please do share it with them.
  • We'll see you again real soon.
  • And in the meantime, remember, we love you.